Monday, August 29, 2011

in loving memory...

in loving memory of my mom 1945-2010
Last year on August 29, 2010 my mom died of breast cancer.
Thereafter, my year became defined by this date. One month, two months, first Christmas, first birthday, and so on. Every significant date on my calendar was preceded by apprehension of not having my Mom here with us...with my children...with me.
I miss her terribly and sometimes wonder how someone so vibrant and full of love can be gone. What seemed unbearable has slowly become more normal. I have come to learn that the pain of loss doesn't leave you, but that your life has a new type of normal.
Recently, I made a pillow for my daughter. I have one for my son too. It was a special gift that my mother had wanted to create for their birthdays. Before she died she described her gift to me. In June, I gave the pillow, made with love, to my daughter for her birthday as my mom had wished. It’s very simple – a cupcake hand-stitched on a pillow with her name, but every stitch I made represented the love my mom had for her family and her desire to leave that love behind in a tangible form. The desire to make something that will be here when we are gone is, I believe, part of human nature.
Although there is a special significance to having tangible heirlooms from our loved ones, what I have come to witness is that the real gift that a person leaves this world is love. It might sound cliche, but it is true. I see my mom everyday in my children. In their contagious laughter, their artistic talents, the way they connect with others, always the diplomat. I could go on. She is everywhere.
Today on this anniversary I feel sad, but that is ok. I also feel a sense of relief that I have gotten through this year of firsts. It has been a year of incredible loss but it has also become a year of much joy and reason to celebrate. Funny how life is like that...
So when I miss her, which is often, I hug those I love, and be thankful. My mom loved a good hug.
Debra xo

Saturday, August 27, 2011


I came across this happy little print and was thrilled to discover you can customize your own recipe!
Wouldn't this make a lovely gift?
I would love to have one customized with a family of my mom's.
Found at Articipe on Etsy

Saturday, August 20, 2011


It's hard to believe we are heading into the last couple of weeks of Summer holidays! I still get butterflies in my tummy at this time every year at the anticipation of Autumn and of course, the sadness of summer's end.
I am looking forward to Autumn. It's my favorite season. I love the colors, pulling out cozy sweaters, the crispness in the air, going apple picking with the kids and, of course, decorating for the season.
If you are looking for ideas to celebrate this colorful season you will absolutely love AUTUMN with Matthew Mead. I'm thrilled to be able to host a GIVEAWAY!! of this stunning magazine. It is full of amazing ideas for celebrating Autumn with your family and friends, and gorgeous photography. YOU WILL LOVE IT!
Win your very own copy Matthew Mead's newest issue of Holiday by leaving a comment here on the blog sharing how you celebrate Autumn with family and friends for your chance to win.
I will be doing a random draw for the lucky winner of the magazine on Sunday August 28th. Good luck!!
You can also order a copy of AUTUMN with Matthew Mead via the website. It would be a wonderful gift to give to a friend or to keep for yourself.

Wednesday, August 3, 2011

red sand therapy

Prince Edward Island 2011

After a few weeks of sinking our toes into the red sand in PEI we are back to summer in the city.

We had an amazing holiday.

Our days were filled with sea-glass hunting, walks to town along the beach, building sandcastles, exploring new beaches, coastal drives, and of course eating lots of fresh island seafood and ice cream!

We were joined by my dad, my brother Jim and sister-in-law Tonya to reconnect after a year of many changes. It was a difficult journey for me to make without my mom...but happily lots of new memories were made.
Time spent on the road and at the beach allowed me the freedom to spend some serious time reflecting on the loss of my mom as we reach the first anniversary of her death later this month. It was a time of healing.

The red-sand beaches of the south shore are so beautiful. I'm always a little bit overwhelmed by the beauty of this island. The salty sea air was just what I needed. It is the place I go to in my mind when I need to recharge.

I hope you are enjoying your summer and creating new memories with your family.

Happy summer,